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Offensive/Politically Incorrect Opinions

What’s your opinion that others may find offensive or politically incorrect?
This holiday season I’ve found myself so frustrated with particular people who have begged for financial help to provide food/gifts for their children. One has new tattoos and smokes/drinks but couldn’t afford any gifts for her three kids - never worked a day in her life but gets her nails done/hair dyed etc... cause self-care is important. (Yes it is, but self-care needn’t cost money).
Another bought herself a diamond ring to celebrate her first Christmas divorced, but couldn’t afford to contribute anything to Christmas dinner (was asked to bring 1 x roast chook) or gifts (even token gifts for her kids cousins) etc... She then went on to brag about the $1500 she spent on her new ring.
So I guess my offensive view is don’t ask me for money for food/gifts when you prioritise your own wants over your own children and niece/nephew.
Can’t choose your family hey!

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How is any of that politically incorrect? I don’t think too many people would argue with you with all you have said.

 She did say offensive as well, and I can imagine there would be lots of people who would get offended at her opinion.
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 I find people who want something for nothing offensive. Not the other way around 🤷‍♀️
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I hate how we are expected to continually apologise to the aboriginal people for past generations behaviour and actions. Like come on, stop blaming everyone else and actually start helping yourselves and your children!

 Agreed! It’s like move the f**k on. Nobody else is apologising for their ancestors behaviours except we seem to have to every few years.
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 Having worked with Aboriginal people, I can tell you some of the biggest critics of government handouts are some Aboriginal people. They see what handouts do to their communities and want it stopped.
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 Depends on which ones you ask. The ones in my town are quite happy to live on the handouts and then send their kids out to steal everybody else’s stuff instead of buying their own.
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 We don’t have to apologise anymore, but we must pay respect to the traditional land owners? Of course we do. But is it necessary to say it every time we have an event. Shouldn’t we always be grateful, and not need to publicly put a show on that we’re doing the right thing?
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 It's welcome to country, its traditional when one tribe comes to meet another tribe on their land for a celebration, the visiting tribe will pay tribute to home tribe and thank them for having them on their land. I think it's kind of cool that we do it. It is only before ceremonies and celebrations.
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 And all of you would sit back and shut up if your parents had been ripped from your grandparents, a few hundred murdered for your white skin and everything else they had to endure.
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 ****few hundred/thousand entire families, and of course there are no white people with drinking or drug or abuse issues . Nah all the trouble is caused by aboriginals in this country.
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 No one says that non-Indigenous Australians have no substance abuse problems or don’t break the law. The fact is that Indigenous people outnumber when looking at it per capita. There’s a problem in the Indigenous community regarding substance abuse and criminal behaviour, putting your hands over your ears and pointing at “white” people doesn’t fix that problem though. There are better options than that.

As for the “apology”, while needed from the government it is not a necessity from the average Australian. There are very few Indigenous people who want you to apologise, a majority just want to be treated the same as you would any other race. Unfortunately the loud “activists” who demand special treatment are the only ones some people here.

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I don’t think we should give the aboriginals absolutely everything on a silver platter only to have them drink it away and trash the government built houses.

If you hit or abuse any medical professional (doctors, nurses, paramedics) you should not be treated no matter how sick you are! There are consequences to your action and health care is a privilege not a right.

I fully support a welfare card for dole bludgers.
I really believe people who refuse to work and rely on the system as an income deserve is basic necessities to live to get them through until they gain meaningful employment, healthy food, clean water, a roof and health care and they should be thankful for it.
You want non essentials, luxurious things?
Get off your a*s and earn them.

 I totally agree.
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 Okay, I agree for the most part but just something to consider: my ftb works out to be about $16000 a year. Sixteen thousand. Childcare costs $100 a day unless I can get full time work (which is rare as hens teeth where I live). Local employers here want you to work half days, which unfortunately doesn't work with childcare costs (full price no matter how many hours they are in the centre). And, there are teenagers and those without children, those with better qualifications, those with more experience, those willing to get on their backs for the role, to compete with for the position. I would LOVE to get a job. I'm just not sure if I can afford it.
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 $16000!!!! That's a LOT of money.
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 I'm sure that you are entitled to child care subsidy on part time hours. I know I am.
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 Welfare cards = higher crime rate. Truth. This is put into place by a racist ming tycoon who just wants to get his own back after having to fork out millions to be able to mine on aboriginal land. The government needs to put more resources into battling addictions and more rehabs, these are the only people that are spending Centrelink money on things they aren't supposed to - people with addictions. Welfare card is going to mean sfa for them, they just have to break into more houses and wait for little old ladies leaving the bank. Nobody ever thinks of the flow on effect of these things. It's just a band aid solution to keep the taxpayers happy.
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 Mining not ming 😂😂😂
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I tell my son he's a good boy when he's good. Pc crowd can go jump.

The serial bludgers need people to stand up to them. They will keep it up while they can get away with it. And they would have no conscience about others going with out while they can afford luxuries with the money they have cadged off them.

Yeah i cannot and will not tolerate adults who don’t have money and/or can’t budget for necessities.

I think tattoos on pretty much everyone look cheap and tacky.

And before everyone jumps on me, remmber the title of this thread. Offensive opinions. I know people will be offended because so many people have tattoos these days. Which is why in real life I keep my opinions on tattoos to myself 😂

 I agree if not done well it looks tacky (on most people i think it does) there are a select few that can pull it off in my opinion & they're usually pretty damn sexy to start with.
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 Yes. Some tattoos I love but just having random ones plonked all over you looks strange, like when kids are left alone with a pack of temporary tattoos. I also love the people who post all of those 'don't judge me because of my tattoos I'm just like you'. Nobody cares that you have tattoos! Nobody thinks you're bad a*s or scary. It's 2019 people.
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 I hate tattoos of your kids names... are you going to forget their names that you need them tattooed to you!?!
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 I want to blend in, be ‘average’ so I have no interest in tattoos. if I want to stand out, I’ll wear clothes and accessories to reflect that desire and I can go back to average with almost no effort.

I’m also very private and somewhat guarded so I don’t want to wear permanent symbols and pictures that reflect my vulnerabilities (for lack of a better term). Tattoos are inherently revealing, people can make relatively accurate assumptions about people with tattoos (generally speaking of course). Historically this has always be the point of tattoos and it’s still used this way, particularly by gangs.

Most people I know have them and I don’t think any less of them, they just aren’t for me.

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My partners ex is an ugly whorebag. That might not be politically incorrect but by society standards it is because new partners aren't supposed to look down on the old ones.

 But we do 😉
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 And some old partners look down on the new ones...especially when they are as ugly as sin.
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Oh heck I’m a pretty offensive mum hahahah

I vaccinate but 100% support people who don’t.

I think letting your baby cry it out is fu****g cruel.

I think everyone should try their hardest to breast feed and not even trying or barely trying is selfish.

I think parents who smack lack properly authority and control , if they had that they wouldn’t need to hit their kid (and I think it’s absolutly hitting your kid regardless of people who say it’s not to make themselves feel better) but most of them don’t wanna hear it or have hard lines. Almost every time I see a kid smacked its cos the parent has lost the temper or control. And it’s NEVER a “tap” (because after all what would a tap teach them?)

I think the rise in “looking after yourself” has produced heaps of selfish parents. Parenting is suppose to be hard, particularly those first few years, it’s not about you at all when their babies. You get more time as they grow but at the start your suppose to be attached to your baby 24/7

I also think food and diet would solve 70% of people anxiety and depression.

And lastly if your kid won’t eat fruit and veg it’s 100% your fault. (Even sensory issue kids) the reason they’ll on eat sandwhiches ect if cos you fed it to them in the first place.
Kids palets (even adult ones) get ruined with processed food or salt ect.

 Haha! I can’t decide if you are more “offensive” or just generally easily offended at everyone else! 😂
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 Not sure how I’m offended by people lol, The OP asked for offensive opinions,

While we’re at it I think a lot of people assume offence when none when taken.
Eg just because I strong disagree and enjoy arguing doesn’t mean I was offended.

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 Not easily offended, but definitely judgemental.
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 We would be good friends if we met in the real world lol
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 I also think it’s funny how fast people call judgemental when by the very act of doing so they at are judging me for my opinion...

I never said I tell people that , or am horrible to them or openly tell them, in fact I keep them mostly to myself because I know they are offensive to some people, and usually the most sensitive kind who need the most kindness.

None the less I see something I have an opinion on it, if you wanna pretend you don’t have opinions on things you see you’re a bit off mark.

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 💁🏽‍♀️ I’m pretty funny as a friend.
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 But you ARE judging. Eg.... People who smack are lazy parents is a judgement.
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 Offensive to some , the most sensitive who need the most kindness? But you admitted you’re offensive.
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 Totally agree with the breastfeeding one. The amount of women I’ve met that claim they didn’t have enough milk for their baby is crazy. 99.9% of the time they either weren’t educated enough to know what normal newborn breastfeeding looks like or they just found it to hard then give up and used the I didn’t have enough milk excuse as a way to make them not feel so guilty.

I have a friend who desperately wanted to BF her second baby, but when she realised that exclusively Breastfeeding basically means that baby cant leave your side she went to formula. but then the I didn’t have enough milk excuse came out. By day 3 your milk is just coming in if your lucky. She then sat there telling me how lucky I am to be blue to BF. It has nothing to do with luck!

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 Yes we make judgements all day every day (or have opinions on what’s in front of us)

So do you not judge a mum who verbally abuses her kid?
Or for those who strongly are for vaccinating do you not judge those who chose not to???

Everyone judges, we judge what we deem poor standards on the more vunrable person.
We judge a man who’s chovanistic, we judge a women who dates a man for his money, we judge women who sleep with married men, we judge women who sleep with “too many” men , we judge men who talk to dirty with the boys.
(Some of these things I don’t actually judge the same way as others)

It’s just we all deem certain things more acceptable to ourselves....
just because your ok with one standard doesn’t mean I am and visa versa.


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 ^ I hope you don’t automatically assume all women who say they didn’t have enough really milk just didn’t try. I tried it all. Have it my best for 3 months. Once my mental
Health started suffering and my baby not thriving I gave it up and went to formula. It was a tough decision because I was very pro BF. But it was the best decision. I thought my poor supply was because he was preem and had spent a month in the nicu. But my second baby was full term and the same thing, poor supply. This time it was about 2 months of trying before I admitted I have faulty boobs.

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 ^^ I didn’t say didn’t judge. Nor do I necessarily think my judgements are always justified. I believe though, you should just own it. ‘Yes I do believe parents who smack are lazy, and yes I’m judging’. Personally, same as OP I hate smacking and find it very hard not to judge. I’m human, I judge. I’m ok admitting that. But being aware of it hopefully I’m doing it less. Because I don’t always like it.
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 ^ I’m the op of this comment and you tried for three months I absolutly applaud you!!!!
That’s TRYING in my opinion.
It’s this that like the above comment says say “I had no milk” but really for one reason or another didn’t want to feed.
My sister will tell you she had no milk... but gave formula day 3 cos bubs was screaming (I had the same thing with my first but it was his belly hurting from the colostrum changing to milk and being over fed!!! Her second never got a drop from the breast cos “she doesn’t produce milk”
Now love my sister, she’s an amazing mum, she’s a much better mum than myself in many aspects and I can assure you she shrugs her head at some of my parenting choices, we love and sport each other regardless and still think the world of each other.

On a side note it also irritates me when a women who won’t try her hardest to breast feed is also very opinionated on anti vaxxers....

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 The babies get weighed, the midwife will tell you the baby isn't gaining enough weight. You try Motilium, lactation cookies and pump and bottle feed after a breastfeed, still not enough weight gain. You are then told to give formula after breastfeeds, the baby fills up on formula and your supply goes down, eventually your baby won't latch and just wants a bottle. You get pnd ready crap like posted above.
I don't consider it judgemental, you just have had different experiences, and don't know what it's like.

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 Sorry I thought my responses were clear that I was saying I do judge but I just veiw it as an opinion... you can be aware of opinions but won’t stop you having them.

I think the problem is when you project to individuals and cause hurt.
I will absolutly say my opinion in a conversation but it has to be the correct environment/people/ and situation.

I can have as many opinions as I want on parenting things because it’s always just an opinion or reaction or judgement, but just because I have them doesn’t mean I’m an asshole about it

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 I didn’t say you were an arsehole. All I said was you’re judging. I’m glad you are aware of it, and not outspoken. Because they are the worst kinds of judges.
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 Top commenter, thank you for the laugh, I actually had to change my undies.
I too had ideas like you before I had children, very similar to what you posted. Once I actually had kids I realised how ridiculous my ideas were, and I'm sure once you have kids you will get a giggle out of it too. Parenting actual kids is very different to hypothetical ones.

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 These were opinions I held before kids and hold even more so after having them.

While I agree the most perfect parent is one without kids does mean we don’t hold ticght to strong opinions.

I never thought I’d co sleep, I didn’t think I’d breastfeed past a year, I didn’t think I would lose patience teaching my own kids the same thing I teach for a living, I didn’t think my kids who not achnkowledge people when they say hello....

But for the most part, I am mostly the parent I thought I would be. And my opinions on how I raise them remain the same.

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 Please post again when you have kids, we can laugh together. I really thought all that, and couldn't understand why so many people got such simple stuff wrong. Having kids certainly brings you down to earth.
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 Well I have 5 children ages 21-2 and I was a 16 year old mum.... so your sarcasm is a bit lost, but none the less the question was opinions considered offensive... which while I don’t think people are offended by my comments I believe it’s the sort of opinions that extract the same reaction my thread has gotten, ergo I nailed OPs question didn’t I.
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 I'm sure you will have five one day. I wouldn't say offensive opinions, if the question was for opinions mums will laugh at.
I'm sorry but your thread is going on my Facebook page.

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 😂👍🏻

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 Omg, this is very you 10 years ago. Tell yourself not to have 5 kids and don't start at16. I want the lottery numbers please time traveller. Does this reply to everyone or just you? Might read more if this it's fu****g funny.
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 You’re not sober are you?

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 Well you had me on board for a bit and then you turned into an absolute twat.
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 The twat is famous. This has come up on my Facebook feed twice, the comments are not nice. I don't think it's vital I know someone who knows the person who posted the screen shot.
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 Suuuure it did.
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 I agree with the op! Great points made
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I support Donald Trump and hate the Clintons

 Me too!
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 I love Trump. He was exactly what the world needed at this point in time.
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 🤣🤣🤣🤣
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My opinion that would probably offend ......
When people don't insure their stuff & start a public campaign or Go Fund Me page when they lose it. For example when someone loses their house & all their contents in a fire. So they want cash from everyone else to replace an asset they should have paid a few hundred dollars on an insurance policy themselves.
(I realise there can be different circumstances, I'm referring to the times when people want to be rescued because they didn't place importance on insuring what it likely their biggest asset. A bit like previous comments where people spend their money frivolously & then ask for handouts).

 I don't find your opinion that controversial at all. It's common sense
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OP I absolutely agree!
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I don’t believe that half the people who say they suffer from anxiety or depression actually do.
I also don’t believe people when they tell me their 3 year old has anxiety.

 I agree with this. And the fact that it has become so popular like a fad means the people with real issues don’t get the help they need
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 Fibromyalgia is another one. Just an excuse to be lazy in my opinion.
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 Jesus Christ you haven’t met my three year old with debilitating anxiety then, have you? But good judgement call on you’re part
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 If a 3 year old has anxiety issues it’s generally the parents fault 🤷‍♀️
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 My son was diagnosed with a rare anxiety disorder at the age of 5, I had student teachers and psychs asking to work with him because they wanted experience with it. He is now 16 on medication and going great. When he is not on medication it is like living with a schizophrenic and I worry one day that will be his new diagnosis. Kids are born with anxiety it is not the parents fault. 3 other kids who are fine btw.
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 You've never spent time with someone who wakes up in the middle of the night with nocturnal panic attacks then.
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Some people are just shit.

You should check out r/choosingbeggars on Reddit.

The “other woman” unless she knew the wife owns no blame for the marriage/family breakup (or other man but let’s be real guys rarely blame the other man and put the blame where it belongs/“- their wife)

Doesn’t mean she doesn’t make poor choices or is of particularly high standards at that point in her life, but it’s 100% the mans fault. Not even a little bit hers.

 Its both, if the other person knows that they are sleeping with a married man then they're both as dumb as each other and both at fault. You can't go sleeping with married people and be like "Oh nah not my fault at all". Men also blame the other man just as much as women blame the other woman.
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 You’re not going to change my mind.

No.
One person was in a marriage.
One person owed on promises made.
One person told lies to the person they weren’t suppose to.
One person kept coming home pretending.
One person in many situation played two people.
One person made choices that would mean his kids had to divide time between the two people they love the most.
One person say YES when they could have said no.
If they say no nothing happens.
There’s a reason good men don’t cheat, because they say no regardless of the question.
When the other women is blamed they are just mad at him and mad at themselves for choosing a poor partner and the easy place to lay that anger is her. But “her wouldn’t be there is HE say no.

If a marriage breaks over cheating it’s the person who broke the vows fault. A

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 Nope, it takes TWO people to cheat. Don't sleep with married people, easy!
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 The fault is on the married person. They made a choice ti cheat. The affair partner, if they knew about, is just a piece of shit.
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