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Why are some responses deleted when they aren't trolling or downright nasty? Does SAHM want to keep things juicy?

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I don't think enough gets deleted.

 Agreed.
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Yeah totally, I don't think any should be deleted. It's an anonymous forum for goodness sake. Who gets to sit in their office and decide what is ok and not? If you can't handle it don't comment or read. Yes there are trolls but I'd say there is something seriously wrong with you if you can't scroll on. It's not like you are a celebrity constantly being personally attacked over again or a child online bullying. Just ignore the dumb shit.

 Because when you go back to a comment and someone has picked the shit out of you/bad mouthed/ abused you and singled you out, how do you just ‘scroll on’ ?
Please. There are that many people that write on this forum about not being able to cope, thoughts of suicide... they’re coming here for help, if they’re here getting attacked then this website wouldn’t be safe would it? So that’s ahy downright nasty comments get deleted

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 It's not attacking. They don't know you. You choose to see it as attacking or you could change your attitude and move on. If you feel attacked by an anonymous comment that is odd. They have know idea who or where you are. It's completely different to a public facebook forum or something. If you put a question on here and can't accept that there are some fuckheads out there that will write mean dumb shit to stir you up...you need to get a grow up and are going to have a tough time in life. Yes this world is lacking compassion but it is also lacking common sense and resilience. I would say that if you dwell on something that is written here - you need to take a long hard look at yourself equally as much as the nasty people.
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 Also, if you need to feel 'safe' for advice, I'd suggest a councillor or call lifeline..places where there are professionals and it's not a free-for all sorts to comment and chime in. Stop and ask yourself...is there a better source for healing / information?
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 No some of this stuff needs to be removed, the trolls have pretty much destroyed this site, and it's a business if they lose the very small percentage of people that are not trolls or just idiots they may as well just shut it down. If I have a parenting question I ask it on Mumsnet, not here. I get a genuine answers, if a question isn't designed to get people arguing on here it gets ignored. If I was looking at advertise something to mums I would not waste my money on here.
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 People literally reply to comments, just as you have replied to mine? Telling me to grow up? See where I’m coming from...
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 Different responder.... are you saying because it’s anonymous then nasty and unhelpful comments should stay? If so then I completely disagree. It’s never ok to be rude and nasty. Some very vulnerable people post here. The nasty comments on threads where people are talking about depression, DV, abuse, suicide should be deleted asap. There is no call for it. People who troll those threads are completely heartless.
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 I’m a regular troll so thanks for telling me about mumsnet!! I will check it out immediately 😂 👍
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 I had a whole post deleted about 18 months ago where I actually was on the edge and didn't know what to do with my DV situation and family life. I don't think I mentioned suicide exactly but Most comments were about how selfish I was to expect my husband to act another way or how selfish I was to work and not raise my kids and that he deserved a better wife and so on. It got deleted, thank goodness. I needed help to reach out but others were happy to tell me to jump off a cliff in a time that was already a concept on my mind.

I try to be nice to most people now unless it's clearly a troll post ha ha ha. But some women are downright nasty, vicious creatures.

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 Mumsnet is fantastic, because troll crap and nasty comments are deleted immediately. Respectful debates are ok.
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The personal attacks should be deleted, there are some horrible comments on here. Nothing wrong with debating a topic, but there is a line that shouldn't be crossed. I think the admin could take a lot form looking at how Mumsnet moderates.

 Exactly
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It's basically a troll forum, so no nothing should get taken down.

I'm surprised this post hasn't been deleted
I made a post asking sahm staff why they don't delete really abusive comments from bullies and they deleted my post instead lol

 It will be by tomorrow!
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 Lol yep Monday office hours
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 Hahaha absolutely!! Surprised it made it this far!!
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I don't know but i've had it had happen to me too. It's fecking annoying.

 I think once a response gets 2 “unhelpful” votes it gets turfed
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 Which is silly because sometimes I've seen comments which were valid but obviously opposed the majority thinking, get removed. So you can be a total bitch and write nasty stuff, but you can't have a valid opinion if someone disagrees with you.
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 I completely agree. I think its funny that people will teach their kids to play nice, listen to people and accept people who are different from them. Then i get on here, if any one has a different opinion "troll" pops up. And the bitchs come out.
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Maybe it's all about the advertising $

 I think so. Maybe they are thinking about the dollar rather than the actual mum. If so, shame on them.
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 Of course, they sell the stories / have an agreement with Channel 9 incl nine honey to use these posts as ‘stories’ have seen them on channel nine afternoon news where they are having discussions about topics and posts from this forum
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 Lol. Read the comments what do you think the demographic on here is?
Not people with disposable income 😂

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I’ve had comments removed and they weren’t even nasty ones. I rewrote them and they got deleted again. Maybe my comments were too boring.